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Are you up for a bit of a chat with gay and bi men?

If you use gay dating websites or apps to connect with other men seeking men, you’ll appreciate that a bit of decent chat goes a long way.

Before you get to navigating the logistics of a hook-up, you’ve got to figure out who are the guys in your neighborhood, which are the guys that are looking for what you’re looking for, who’s available when, and whether you’re ticking each other’s boxes.

How do I use the Chat function on

Head to the Live Chat section of the site. This has got some features that are worth exploring. You’ve got a history of any chats that you’ve had previously, so you can easily pick up a conversation. You can also search for guys in a specific area that you might want to start a chat with. Possibly the most useful function is the Guys Online option.

By using the Guys Online option, you’re automatically increasing your chances of kicking off a conversation with someone who is online and looking to connect. You can sort this view by all sorts of criteria. If you’re looking for someone in your neighborhood who might be up for some fun, then set the filters accordingly and see which profiles grab your attention.

What makes good chat?

When it comes to chat, there’s no right or wrong way to go about it. What works for some guys, may not work for others - it’s a bit of trial and error.

A good starting point is to just be yourself. Don’t pretend to be something that you’re not - be authentic and honest.

Try and be upbeat and fun. Guys are generally checking out a gay dating site because they’re looking for a connection with someone that they might want to have sex with. They probably don’t want to hear about your problems, try and focus on the positive things that you’ve got going on in your life.

Be sexy. There’s no point being too coy about things. We’re all guys, we know how sex works. If someone asks you what you’re into, tell them. Being direct is often the best way to cut through to the question at hand - are we going to get it on?

What do I do if a guy doesn’t respond to my chat message?

Don’t over-think it. There’s lots of reasons why someone might not respond to you. Even if you’ve had good chat previously, things change - that’s okay. It’s okay to try a couple of times - maybe they were busy, maybe they didn’t see your message, but if they’re consistently not responding to you then it’s best just to move on and put your energy elsewhere.

The good news is that with a hookup site like, there’s always plenty of other guys out there - guys who might be a better fit for what you’re looking for.

If someone isn’t responding to you, don’t take it personally, it’s not rejection. Sure, it can be disappointing, but don’t get abusive or demanding. Move on.

Does chat always have to lead to a hook-up?

Sometimes you just want to talk dirty with someone. Some quality sexting can go a long way. Maybe you’ve figured out the logistics aren’t going to work, but you’ve got some quality chat underway and you’re both online. There’s some real skill in being able to share your fantasies with another guy, to be able to tell each other what turns you on, to act out those fantasies through your chat messages to each other. It’s like real-time erotic gay fiction - almost like a sex-filled choose-your-own-adventure - all thanks to the power of technology.